This office move has really challenged me. I notice my mind having thoughts like "Can I really have all I want?".

Here I am moving my office to a bigger space, hiring counselors to see clients, growing my business and I haven't even shared with you all the personal things I have been doing.

Being a reformed dieter, of course I would think this way. A dieters mind says "I cannot eat lunch AND dinner: "I cannot have dinner and dessert." A dieters mind says "I cannot eat in the morning, noon and night."

As dieters we think "How little can I eat today and still get by?"
I wonder "If we think this way with food, is this the way we also live our lives?".

I don't have an eating disorder anymore. I eat through out my day, healthy, delicious mostly home-cooked, organic food. I enjoy it. I love eating!

But what are other areas of my own life (or your life) where we still think like dieters.

At Fruition Women's Health we look at food in two ways:

First- we look at the food you actually eat: your veggies, fruits, grains, fats, proteins, etc…

Second, we look at what is called primary food*.

Primary foods are all the things that feed you that don't come on your plate. Things like your job, your relationships (all kinds of relationships: friend, family, significant others, pets). Also things like exercise, spirituality, creativity, etc.

As a dieter, and believe me I was an expert dieter, I often thought that the pounds needed to come off first, my body needed to change FIRST before anything in my life could change.

You probably recognize this thought: When I loose those 5-10-20 pounds then I'll feel better, start dancing, have a boyfriend, travel, wear that bikini, let myself relax...

Fill in the blank right?

We think "First I'll get the body 'right', then the rest of my life".
I will admit that when we eat well, get regular exercise and feel good in our body we are more motivated to do the other things in our life.
But does it need to come FIRST?

Perhaps your soul, your spirit, is aching for something and if that something gets the attention it desires, the pounds will come off, your digestion will flow more freely, your periods will regulate, you will get more sleep…Do you see where I am going?

My belief is that it all needs to happen at the same time.

Feeding ourselves, I mean truly FEEDING OURSELVES, doesn't happen in isolation, counting calories, or through restriction. Feeding ourselves doesn't mean abstaining from eating when we are alone so that we'll appear "normal" because we eat when we are out with friends.

Feeding ourselves happens when we eat healthy foods and learn to feed our soul.

Your assignment :

PART 1:
This week make a list of 5 things you will do WHEN you finally have the body you want. (If you have the body you want but still hold off on doing things, write them down!)

PART 2:
Pick one and think of 1-2 action steps you can do NOW. Start taking action on what you really want from life even before your body/health is where you think it should be. For example: I want to wear that sexy shirt. I want to start to dance. I want to ask that person out for a tea or a date.

PART 3:
Think what foods would serve you to complete this action and continue practicing.

INQUIRY:
What happens when YOU find the foods that nourish your cells and the foods that nourish your soul?

* Primary Food - a term that my mentor and teacher Joshua Rosenthal, director and founder of The Institute for Integrative Nutrition, invented.

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